Sexual sin is unique because of how many facets of the human experience it touches. Yet humans have done everything they can to compartmentalize it as hurting no one. The biblical model for sex is that of a permeating and pervasive experience. Sex is an act of worship in the covenant relationship. It is a moment where we are given communion physically and emotionally with another image bearer and in that process, shame is put aside and away from the covenant, and literal entrance into the relationship is given physically, mentally, and spiritually. It is no wonder that it is so highly pursued. It approximates Eden, a time and place where men and women appreciated each other without shame and under God-ordained covenant. This is why cheapening it with half-hearted participation in the emotional or covenantal side is not simply unwise, but it’s immoral. It perverts the nature of the gift of sex… a full and safe sense of communion in an otherwise fallen world.
We must teach our men to understand what they are doing with their bodies, emotions, and minds because they will be held accountable to all three plains of loving God and it is only when these three plains are synced properly that they will feel healthy as intended.