The passage ends with the quip, “don’t you realize?” The question here is hope. If your hope is in God’s ability to show a person that you love about himself through your continuing sacrifice in their life then you have already won them to Christ. But if your hope is to end the fighting, have your insecurities met, win an argument or generally improve them… your marriage is lost. Marriage is built upon the covenant between God, your spouse, and you. Leaning into this covenant in the way Christ leaned into his… through sacrifice, is the only real way to ensure the resurrection of a dead marriage. In good marriages, this happens every day. In bad marriages, it’s a forgotten practice at best. Sometimes it’s never happened. Imagined if it did, before people jumped to divorce?