Again we see that something in our culture that is viewed as purely biological is maintained with an eye toward its purpose in the unity of the marriage relationship. Even in abstinence within marriage, the point of functioning this way is to draw closer to God. This is why it should only be done for a short time and with the right reason in mind. The highest mentality here is that of proper thoughts on ownership. Both partners own the other partner’s body. This means that our se. lives are at the whim and desire of our partner rather than of our own urges. To make this fulfilling, both partners will need to want what is best for their partners. In counseling, we often find the opposite has become true. That sex is a means of mutually assured destruction. But when sex is godly, it is instead mutually assured benefit… even capable of creating new life.